Mz. Goldie Takes us into Fall
Hello my darlings! Well, it’s happened: the colors are changing, the leaves are falling, you need to cover up a bit more, and the streets are filled with the sweet scent of virgins and sweaty frat boys. Ah fall, how we have missed you! Speaking of change, our first letter comes from a man who wants to spice it up like Thanksgiving pumpkin pie!
Me and my lady have been going together for about six months now, and it’s great. I love everything about the sex, except we always do the same things. I’m wondering, what is the best way to bring something new into the relationship without insulting her or scaring her off?
Wanting Something New
A common problem sweetheart, we’ve all been there! Now, if your lady is a bit sensitive, you have to broach the subject with the greatest of ease, like with more lube than you need during anal, but in this case, the lube is complements.
You need to start by telling her how much you love the sex, how sexy she is, how awesome her (insert her best move here) is. Then when she’s more buttered up than corn on the BBQ, you gently say, you know what I’ve been fantasizing about or, you know what I’d find really hot, or, I think you would look super sexy in X position.
Now, here is the most important part, you have to look and listen carefully, read her signs, if she seems at all upset you need to abort the mission and go back to the compliments. But, if she’s ok, then you ask her if there is anything she wants to try, that way she feels a part of the process, a partnership if you will, trust me, us women love that shit. If she’s totally opposed, give it at least another month and try again.
If you can’t wait, then you can try the more tricky, bringing it up during sex move. However, be warned this could lead to disaster, because if she feels insulted during the act, you ain’t getting laid for weeks my darlin’, so tread lightly. Good luck baby!
Dear Mz. Richard:
I have a problem; I have recently gotten tested for STD’s because an old fuck buddy of mine called to say she got something. I haven’t gotten the results back yet, but I think I’ll be ok. The question here is, should I tell my new girlfriend before I get them back, or just wait to see if there is a problem? Is this breaking the trust of her?
Trustworthy in Toronto
Oh dear, oh dear. This is a tough call. One part of me wants to say; no don’t put her through the heartache of hearing all about your slutty past, if there is no problem, then why bother. But the other part is saying I would want to know.
If I know one thing about women, it’s that we want to know everything about you, even if it hurts. She would want to know that this was going on, that she might be at risk, but more importantly that you might be. Also, this is a good time to bring up the fact that you should be getting tested regularly anyway, and maybe you both could go together, I mean if you haven’t had the STD talk yet and you’ve been sticking it in her for a while, now is the time baby.
I say tell her. She might get mad, but you can always throw the “well, I thought it better for you to know than keep it from you” line. That’ll settle her down. I’m prayin’ for you sweety.
Until next time honeys keep it sexy AND SAFE!