No one is going to hold the door for you.
My darlings, I am writing you from vacation this week. I decided to take a look around this new country I am living in, and it is beautiful. I took a little gander at the Eastern part of this vast land of yours, and what a sight for these old eyes to behold. Nothing like doing it in a dinghy to really make a girl relax! Ah, those lobster boys know their way around a fish taco, just like those Mexicans in California. Alright, I digress, again! Woo-ooo, we have a goody this week, so let’s get to it.
Dear Mz. Goldie Richard:
I am having a real problem making a decision that will seriously affect my sex life. I met this great girl, and we really hit it off. So, I took her out on a date, which ended up at my house, and I thought, great, I’m going to get lucky. But as we were getting down to it, she stopped me and explained that actually, she is in a relationship, but an open relationship, so it is cool if she’s with me too, but wanted to put it out on the table before we got physical. I’m just not sure if I’m cool with it, I mean is it a good idea to be the “open” in an open relationship?
Not so open in Ottawa
Dear NSO;
Well, honey, it sounds like you have a big decision to make. I generally go by the rule that if you’re not sure, then don’t do it. But then again, I have tried many things I was unsure of and ending up loving it. Hell, I wouldn’t have known I have a horse saddle fetish if I didn’t try it — but that’s a story for another time. The point is you don’t know unless you try it sometimes. Now, open relationships are tricky. I would recommend checking in again, and making sure the arrangement she has with her partner is all open, and not an arrangement where she fucks who she wants and her partner sits at home and cries about it, ’cause you want no part of that — trust me. Then there is the issue of your feelings, too. Are you in this for just a few dirty trysts, or are you looking for a relationship? If it’s the former, I say go for it — what goes on in their relationship is their issue, and you are just getting your rocks off. But, if you are thinking of getting serious, that is another story. First of all, that may not be an option in the agreement she has with her partner, and second of all, is that something that you want? To share your partner? That is the real question, because in either circumstance that’s what it comes down to. You will have to share. But if you’re okay with that, I will never tell someone not to have good, healthy sex.
Have fun and be good, but never too good.
Mz. Richard
